By: by Rachel Goodchild (Tue, 17 Nov 2009)
Did you wake up one morning to find that your lovely child has been replaced by a surly, disrespectful teenager who seems to have more tantrums than a two-year-old?
Luckily, the teen started out as baby so that by the time he/she has grown into a teenager, we have already developed a strong bond. Imagine if teenagers arrived after nine months of pregnancy!
The best way to deal with teenage tantrums is to first reassure yourself that this is yet another stage of the parenting cycle and you will get through it.
Cast your mind back to the days when your baby would not sleep and you thought you would never survive the sleep deprivation. Well, you did! Tantrums are no different, and you will survive.
If you are a parent of a difficult teen, you need to be the adult that you are and remember that your teen is suffering an overdose of hormones and cannot always think logically.
If you are a woman, you will know that at certain times of the month, your own behaviour would often astonish you although you would never blame your period!
Well, it is the same for teenagers. Often they know they are behaving badly but they don’t know how to control themselves.
» Remain in control
The moment you lose your temper is the time you have lost the argument. Try to remain positive and calm despite how your teen is reacting.
If you feel that you are going to lose your temper, end the discussion and walk away. Only return to deal with whatever the issue is after you’ve regained your composure.
» Negotiate and not order
They are almost grownups and you will help them become better adults if you show them that you are trying to see their point of view.
Your aim is to always win the war but allow them to win a couple of minor battles along the way. It is better to find a compromise than to always try and enforce your opinion on them.
» Support, praise and encourage
Despite the fact that they will pretend otherwise, teenagers value your opinion and still want your love and affection. Try to be supportive and praise them at every given opportunity.
However, don’t go overboard such as saying how wonderful they are for getting out of bed before nightfall! But if they do something amazing like getting good grades, drawing some beautiful artwork or helping out at the local orphanage, make sure you praise their achievements.
Don’t just concentrate on school stuff. A well-rounded adult has many star qualitieswhich are first developed in their teen years.
» Allow them to decide
Now obviously, I do not mean that you should let them get drunk or take drugs but you have to allow teenagers to make some choices. You could let them choose their own dress code even if you probably won’t like it. But then, think of what you wore when you were a teenager and how your parents reacted.
In allowing teenagers to make their own choices, make sure that they also learn to live with the consequences of their decisions.
So if they decide that they must have the latest iPod, they should pay for it from their pocket money or earnings.
Resist the temptation to micromanage your teenagers’ life. They will make mistakes but that is how they learn. You will make mistakes too. Together you will find your path through these teenage tantrums and, hopefully, seal the foundation for a loving adult-to-adult relationship.
They will always be your baby but you have to someday stop treating them as such.
Now is as good a day as any!
resources : The Sun newspaper dated November 17, 2009, familyties page 20
Tuesday, November 24, 2009
The Smart Guide
Here are some useful pointers for first-time mothers as well as mothers with a new addition to the family
Walk The Talk
Most parents want their children to be polite and use words like 'please' and 'thank you', but if children don't hear adults using the words regularly, they are unlikely to use them either. Make an effort to be polite in front of your children and they are more likely to behave that way, too.
Emphathise With The Child
Promote empathy in children by talking to them about stories you have read or films they have watched. For instance, if you've been reading Cinderella, talk to them about how upset she was because her stepsisters were mean to her.
Avoid Yes Or No Questions
Once your child nears the age of two, their favourite word will become 'no'. It's not that they really mean it - it's just that they're learning that they have their world. If you find it hard to deal with it, try cutting out 'yes' and 'no' questions and ask things like: "would you like yoghurt or strawberries?" instead of "would you like some dessert?"
Simplify Tasks
Frustration is a growing pain for children when they try to do something and invariably find that they can't quite do it yet. Help the young by giving them toys or tasks they can manage and help them along when they encounter difficulty. Simple tasks like cleaning up can give children confidence in doing things.
Dealing With Depression
Even children can get depressed, if your toddler doesn't seem to be happy or is acting strangely, try and find out what's upsetting him/her. If nothing seems to work, take the child to a doctor immediately.
Play Together
Keeping a positive attitude and playing with your toddler can help lift your spirits, even when you're feeling down. Make an effort to find the time to indulge in fun-filled activities with your child.
Never Home Alone
Do not leave your baby or young child at home alone, sleeping or awake, even for a few minutes. There could be some dangers lurking around that you may not be aware of. Take your child with you, or get someone to take care of him/her, whenever you leave the house.
resources : The Sun newspaper dated November 17, 2009, familyties page 20.
Walk The Talk
Most parents want their children to be polite and use words like 'please' and 'thank you', but if children don't hear adults using the words regularly, they are unlikely to use them either. Make an effort to be polite in front of your children and they are more likely to behave that way, too.
Emphathise With The Child
Promote empathy in children by talking to them about stories you have read or films they have watched. For instance, if you've been reading Cinderella, talk to them about how upset she was because her stepsisters were mean to her.
Avoid Yes Or No Questions
Once your child nears the age of two, their favourite word will become 'no'. It's not that they really mean it - it's just that they're learning that they have their world. If you find it hard to deal with it, try cutting out 'yes' and 'no' questions and ask things like: "would you like yoghurt or strawberries?" instead of "would you like some dessert?"
Simplify Tasks
Frustration is a growing pain for children when they try to do something and invariably find that they can't quite do it yet. Help the young by giving them toys or tasks they can manage and help them along when they encounter difficulty. Simple tasks like cleaning up can give children confidence in doing things.
Dealing With Depression
Even children can get depressed, if your toddler doesn't seem to be happy or is acting strangely, try and find out what's upsetting him/her. If nothing seems to work, take the child to a doctor immediately.
Play Together
Keeping a positive attitude and playing with your toddler can help lift your spirits, even when you're feeling down. Make an effort to find the time to indulge in fun-filled activities with your child.
Never Home Alone
Do not leave your baby or young child at home alone, sleeping or awake, even for a few minutes. There could be some dangers lurking around that you may not be aware of. Take your child with you, or get someone to take care of him/her, whenever you leave the house.
resources : The Sun newspaper dated November 17, 2009, familyties page 20.
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Wednesday, October 14, 2009
What Adult Should Do and Should Not Do In Front Of Children?
Today morning, when i was on my way to college, i tune my car radio to 107.50fm light and easy channel. Every morning, they will randomly put up a question which has no right or wrong answer for people to call up to give comments. Today the question was, "What adult should or shouldn't do in front of children?"
Many callers called up and give their opinion. One lady caller said, "Parents should always hold hands, hugs, and show physical touching in front of their children, so that the children will feel the security in the family because they have a loving parents. They will not be afraid of any family break-up and all this things happen in their family."
Then, a man caller called up and say, "Parents should not lost control of their temper, using foul language and should not smoke and drink in front of their children. It is like giving a green light to their children to go ahead with smoking."
Think about it, what these 2 callers has said. 1 is giving security to the children and another talks about losing temper and smoking and stuff. I totally agree with what this 2 callers had said. Don't you think so?
Follow by another caller which said, "We as children always see our parents as our hero. Whatever our parents do, we as children will tend to follow them without knowing what is right and what is wrong. As long as what our parents are doing, it is a right thing to do so, that is why we follow them."
I agree very much of this statement. What do you think?
Again, this is why i say PARENTING is such an important tool as a training to our children. Whatever the children do, it is a mirror of their parents' character. Again and again I kept stressing out on the topic of why it is so important in parenting issues. Think about it and think for your future. Be a good parents.
Many callers called up and give their opinion. One lady caller said, "Parents should always hold hands, hugs, and show physical touching in front of their children, so that the children will feel the security in the family because they have a loving parents. They will not be afraid of any family break-up and all this things happen in their family."
Then, a man caller called up and say, "Parents should not lost control of their temper, using foul language and should not smoke and drink in front of their children. It is like giving a green light to their children to go ahead with smoking."
Think about it, what these 2 callers has said. 1 is giving security to the children and another talks about losing temper and smoking and stuff. I totally agree with what this 2 callers had said. Don't you think so?
Follow by another caller which said, "We as children always see our parents as our hero. Whatever our parents do, we as children will tend to follow them without knowing what is right and what is wrong. As long as what our parents are doing, it is a right thing to do so, that is why we follow them."
I agree very much of this statement. What do you think?
Again, this is why i say PARENTING is such an important tool as a training to our children. Whatever the children do, it is a mirror of their parents' character. Again and again I kept stressing out on the topic of why it is so important in parenting issues. Think about it and think for your future. Be a good parents.
Saturday, September 12, 2009
Samy Vellu Jokes
Samy Vellu on the speed of Pos Laju's delivery system :)
"BESOK KIRIM, HARI INI SAMPAI" :-)
At a TV interview, when trying to say he was ashamed, he said:
`Kemaluan saya besar'
Samy said in a ceramah:"
Kita akan bina satu jambatan untuk orang-orang kampong disini."
One pakcik asked, "Datuk, sini takde sungai, buat apa bina jambatan?"
and Samy gloriously replied,"Kalau takde sungai, kita bina sungai!"
Samy's favorite quote on national television:
"Toll naik sikit, manyak marah saya. You ingat semua ini toll saya punya bapa punya kah!"
During the water crisis:
"semua orang diminta jangan membuang aiyerr..!"
Regarding social problems:
"..orang2 muda sekarang banyak hisap dada.."
At a blood donation campaign in Sungei Siput:"
...marilah kita semua menderma dara.."
During the height of the Al-Arqam saga, he said in a press conference,
"Saya gembira bahawa didapati tiada pemuda MIC terlibat dalam kes Arqam.."
At an opening ceremony:
"Tuan tuan dan puan puan, saudara mara, sesudah semua orang makan kenyang, sekarang kita mempersilakan Datin Paduka Rafidah Aziz naik ke pentas untuk membuka kain"
Commenting about his modesty:"sebenarnya, kemaluan saya sangat-sangat besar"
And the best: u know why our N-S Highway concessionaire is named PLUS.
PLUS Highway = Pungut Lebih Untuk Samy"
saya berasa bangga dapat melihat pusat-pusat jururawat yang cantik-cantik.".
upon opening ceremony for nursing training center"
Saya tidak setuju dan menentang sekeras2nya tuduhan PAS memanggil kami kapir ..."
Ucapan Samy Vellu sempena kepulangan angsakawan Dr. Sheikh Mudzafar,
"Kita rasa bersyukur kerana angkawasan kita yang telah MENINGGAL DUNIA selama 10 hari telah selamat DIKEBUMI."
Samy Vellu and his Stamps
When Samy Vellu completed 25 years of his role as a politician over M'sia, he wanted a special postage stamp issued, with his picture on it. He insisted the stamp to be of international quality. When the stamps were duly released, he began hearing complaints that the stamp was not sticking properly, and become furious. He called the chief of the Secret Service and ordered him to investigate the matter. The chief checked the matter out at several post offices, and then reported on the problem to Samy Vellu.
He said: "Sir, the stamp is really of international quality. The problem is, our citizens are spitting on the wrong side!"
Sammy Vellu and his old boss, Mahathir
General Musharaf, Samy Vellu, Mahathir and Gloria Arroyo are sitting in a train. The train suddenly goes thru a tunnel and it gets completely dark. Suddenly there is a kissing sound and then a slap! The train comes out of the tunnel. Arroyo and Musharraf are sitting there looking perplexed. Samy Vellu is bent over holding his face, which is red from an apparent slap. All of them remain diplomatic and nobody says anything.
Musharraf is thinking: "These Malaysians are all crazy after Arroyo. Samy must have tried to kiss her in the tunnel. Very proper that she slapped him."
Arroyo is thinking: "Samy must have moved to kiss me, and kissed Musharraf instead and got slapped."
Samy is thinking: "Damn it, Musharaf must have tried to kiss Arroyo, she thought it was me and slapped me."
Mahathir is simply thinking: "If this train goes through another tunnel, I could make another kissing sound and slap Samy again."
-------samy vellu and space exploration
Mr Samy Vellu went for the United Nations' meeting. He represented the Malaysian Prime Minister. All nations were discussing about space exploration by the year 2008.Here are some of the conversations:
China Delegate : "By the year 2008, China will start their moon exploration project."
Russian Delegate : "We too, we are going to explore the moon. This time we will see to it that our cosmonauts will step on the moon."
George Bush & Clinton : "We the United States will also explore the moon for the second time."
Malaysian Delegate : "By the year 2008, Malaysia will explore the sun."
There was a long silence. Bush stood up and asked the Malaysian delegate
"Isn't it too hot to explore the sun?"
Samy Vellu (after a long silence) : "We will do it in the evening."
-------------------- version 2Siri lain Samy Vellu ditemuramah tentang program angkasawan negara.
Lagi-lagi Samy
Samy: "…Bagi saya, ini semua adalah satu pembaziran atas duit rakyat. Kita sepatutnya tidak hantar mereka ke bulan, tapi hantar mereka pergi matahari. Barulah USA, Russia, respect sama kita…."
Penemuramah: Tapi Dato' Seri, matahari kan panas. Macam mana mau pergi sana ?
Samy: Cit! itu pasal la u tara jadi mintri. Saya suda lebey 30 tahun jadi mintri, saya musti ada jalan penyelesaian. Kita jangan pergi siang, manyak panas. kita pigi malam, baru ada sujuuuuuk……
--------------------------samy vellu and sign Language Samy Vellu was visiting India when he fell and broke his jaw and was unable to speak. Being the great leader that he was, he continued his grand tour.
On the last week of his visit, the RTM crew was present for his press conference. Although unable to speak, Samy insisted sending a message home to his Cabinet colleagues.
Samy caught a chicken and showed it to camera. He next took a goat, and showed it to the camera. Finally he took a bag and displayed in front of the camera.
Dr Ling was the first to see the video clips. He said, "Samy is telling us that India has insufficient food because he showed us chicken and goat, and he wants Malaysia to donate bags of rice."
The senator watched silently then said, "No lah!...what Samy trying to say is HE IS COMING BACK!!!"
The whole Cabinet was puzzled and look to the man for an explanation.
The Senator reasoned, "AYAM KAMBING BAG!!!" ("I am coming back!!!" in Indian accent)
"BESOK KIRIM, HARI INI SAMPAI" :-)
At a TV interview, when trying to say he was ashamed, he said:
`Kemaluan saya besar'
Samy said in a ceramah:"
Kita akan bina satu jambatan untuk orang-orang kampong disini."
One pakcik asked, "Datuk, sini takde sungai, buat apa bina jambatan?"
and Samy gloriously replied,"Kalau takde sungai, kita bina sungai!"
Samy's favorite quote on national television:
"Toll naik sikit, manyak marah saya. You ingat semua ini toll saya punya bapa punya kah!"
During the water crisis:
"semua orang diminta jangan membuang aiyerr..!"
Regarding social problems:
"..orang2 muda sekarang banyak hisap dada.."
At a blood donation campaign in Sungei Siput:"
...marilah kita semua menderma dara.."
During the height of the Al-Arqam saga, he said in a press conference,
"Saya gembira bahawa didapati tiada pemuda MIC terlibat dalam kes Arqam.."
At an opening ceremony:
"Tuan tuan dan puan puan, saudara mara, sesudah semua orang makan kenyang, sekarang kita mempersilakan Datin Paduka Rafidah Aziz naik ke pentas untuk membuka kain"
Commenting about his modesty:"sebenarnya, kemaluan saya sangat-sangat besar"
And the best: u know why our N-S Highway concessionaire is named PLUS.
PLUS Highway = Pungut Lebih Untuk Samy"
saya berasa bangga dapat melihat pusat-pusat jururawat yang cantik-cantik.".
upon opening ceremony for nursing training center"
Saya tidak setuju dan menentang sekeras2nya tuduhan PAS memanggil kami kapir ..."
Ucapan Samy Vellu sempena kepulangan angsakawan Dr. Sheikh Mudzafar,
"Kita rasa bersyukur kerana angkawasan kita yang telah MENINGGAL DUNIA selama 10 hari telah selamat DIKEBUMI."
Samy Vellu and his Stamps
When Samy Vellu completed 25 years of his role as a politician over M'sia, he wanted a special postage stamp issued, with his picture on it. He insisted the stamp to be of international quality. When the stamps were duly released, he began hearing complaints that the stamp was not sticking properly, and become furious. He called the chief of the Secret Service and ordered him to investigate the matter. The chief checked the matter out at several post offices, and then reported on the problem to Samy Vellu.
He said: "Sir, the stamp is really of international quality. The problem is, our citizens are spitting on the wrong side!"
Sammy Vellu and his old boss, Mahathir
General Musharaf, Samy Vellu, Mahathir and Gloria Arroyo are sitting in a train. The train suddenly goes thru a tunnel and it gets completely dark. Suddenly there is a kissing sound and then a slap! The train comes out of the tunnel. Arroyo and Musharraf are sitting there looking perplexed. Samy Vellu is bent over holding his face, which is red from an apparent slap. All of them remain diplomatic and nobody says anything.
Musharraf is thinking: "These Malaysians are all crazy after Arroyo. Samy must have tried to kiss her in the tunnel. Very proper that she slapped him."
Arroyo is thinking: "Samy must have moved to kiss me, and kissed Musharraf instead and got slapped."
Samy is thinking: "Damn it, Musharaf must have tried to kiss Arroyo, she thought it was me and slapped me."
Mahathir is simply thinking: "If this train goes through another tunnel, I could make another kissing sound and slap Samy again."
-------samy vellu and space exploration
Mr Samy Vellu went for the United Nations' meeting. He represented the Malaysian Prime Minister. All nations were discussing about space exploration by the year 2008.Here are some of the conversations:
China Delegate : "By the year 2008, China will start their moon exploration project."
Russian Delegate : "We too, we are going to explore the moon. This time we will see to it that our cosmonauts will step on the moon."
George Bush & Clinton : "We the United States will also explore the moon for the second time."
Malaysian Delegate : "By the year 2008, Malaysia will explore the sun."
There was a long silence. Bush stood up and asked the Malaysian delegate
"Isn't it too hot to explore the sun?"
Samy Vellu (after a long silence) : "We will do it in the evening."
-------------------- version 2Siri lain Samy Vellu ditemuramah tentang program angkasawan negara.
Lagi-lagi Samy
Samy: "…Bagi saya, ini semua adalah satu pembaziran atas duit rakyat. Kita sepatutnya tidak hantar mereka ke bulan, tapi hantar mereka pergi matahari. Barulah USA, Russia, respect sama kita…."
Penemuramah: Tapi Dato' Seri, matahari kan panas. Macam mana mau pergi sana ?
Samy: Cit! itu pasal la u tara jadi mintri. Saya suda lebey 30 tahun jadi mintri, saya musti ada jalan penyelesaian. Kita jangan pergi siang, manyak panas. kita pigi malam, baru ada sujuuuuuk……
--------------------------samy vellu and sign Language Samy Vellu was visiting India when he fell and broke his jaw and was unable to speak. Being the great leader that he was, he continued his grand tour.
On the last week of his visit, the RTM crew was present for his press conference. Although unable to speak, Samy insisted sending a message home to his Cabinet colleagues.
Samy caught a chicken and showed it to camera. He next took a goat, and showed it to the camera. Finally he took a bag and displayed in front of the camera.
Dr Ling was the first to see the video clips. He said, "Samy is telling us that India has insufficient food because he showed us chicken and goat, and he wants Malaysia to donate bags of rice."
The senator watched silently then said, "No lah!...what Samy trying to say is HE IS COMING BACK!!!"
The whole Cabinet was puzzled and look to the man for an explanation.
The Senator reasoned, "AYAM KAMBING BAG!!!" ("I am coming back!!!" in Indian accent)
Saturday, September 5, 2009
Jokes
A chinese man was in a karaoke with his friends. He wanted to show off his English and requested for an English song.
He asked the person in-charge to put on "Ah Cheng boi loti."
The person-in-charge looked athim and said, "there's no such song."
The chinese man said, "yes, there's a song called Ah Cheng boi loti."
The man was shown all the CDs and he pointed at "Unchained Melody"
He asked the person in-charge to put on "Ah Cheng boi loti."
The person-in-charge looked athim and said, "there's no such song."
The chinese man said, "yes, there's a song called Ah Cheng boi loti."
The man was shown all the CDs and he pointed at "Unchained Melody"
Tuesday, September 1, 2009
Funny Jokes
Lady : Is this my train?
Station Master : No, it belongs to the Railway Company.
Lady : Don't try to be funny. I mean to ask if I can take this train to New Delhi.
Station Master : No Madam, I'm afraid it's too heavy.
~~~~~~
A drunkard was brought to court.
Just before the trial there was a commotion in the gallery.
The judge pounded the gravel on his table and shouted, "Order, order."
The drunkard immediately responded, "Thank you, your honor, I'll have a scotch and soda."
~~~~~~~
Customer :Waiter, do you serve crabs?
Waiter :Please sit down sir, we serve everyone.
~~~~~~
Customer:Waiter, is this a lamb chop or pork chop?
Waiter:Can't you tell the difference by taste?
Customer:No, I can't.
Waiter:Then does it really matter?
~~~~~~
Little Susie came running into the house after school one day, shouting,"Daddy!Daddy! I got a 100 in school today!"
"That's great, Sweetheart," said her daddy."Come in to the living room and tell me about it."
"Well, "began the confession, "I got 50 in spelling, 30 in math's and 20 in science."
~~~~~~
Customer:Waiter, there's a dead beetle in my soup.
Waiter:Yes sir, they are not very good swimmers.
~~~~~~
Customer:Waiter, there's a fly in my soup.
Waiter:That' s all right sir, he won't drink much.
~~~~~~
Waiter: I've stewed liver, boiled tongue and frog's leg.
Customer: Don't tell me your problems. Give the menu card.
~~~~~~~~~
Customer:Waiter, there's a fly swimming in my soup.
Waiter: So what do you expect me to do, call a lifeguard?
~~~~~~~
Customer :Waiter, what's the meaning of this fly in my tea up?
Waiter :I wouldn't know sir, I'm a waiter, not a fortune teller.
~~~~~~~
1st thief :Oh ! The police is here. Quick! Jump out of the window!
2nd thief:But this is the 13th floor.
1st thief :Hurry! this is no time for superstitions.
~~~~~~~~
Man: How old is your father?
Boy: As old as me.
Man : How can that be?
Boy: He became a father only when I was born.
~~~~~~~~~
Customer:Waiter, this soup tastes funny.
Waiter: Funny? But then why aren't you laughing?
~~~~~~~
Teacher : Peter, why are you late for school again?
Peter: Well, Miss, I dreamed that I was playing football and the game went into extra time.
~~~~~~~
An absent-minded man went to see a psychiatrist.
'My trouble is,' he said, 'that I keep forgetting things.
''How long has this been going on?' asked the psychiatrist.
'How long has what been going on?' said the man.
~~~~~~~
Girl : Do you love me?
Boy:Yes Dear.
Girl: Would you die for me?
Boy :No, mine is undying love.
~~~~~~~~
Station Master : No, it belongs to the Railway Company.
Lady : Don't try to be funny. I mean to ask if I can take this train to New Delhi.
Station Master : No Madam, I'm afraid it's too heavy.
~~~~~~
A drunkard was brought to court.
Just before the trial there was a commotion in the gallery.
The judge pounded the gravel on his table and shouted, "Order, order."
The drunkard immediately responded, "Thank you, your honor, I'll have a scotch and soda."
~~~~~~~
Customer :Waiter, do you serve crabs?
Waiter :Please sit down sir, we serve everyone.
~~~~~~
Customer:Waiter, is this a lamb chop or pork chop?
Waiter:Can't you tell the difference by taste?
Customer:No, I can't.
Waiter:Then does it really matter?
~~~~~~
Little Susie came running into the house after school one day, shouting,"Daddy!Daddy! I got a 100 in school today!"
"That's great, Sweetheart," said her daddy."Come in to the living room and tell me about it."
"Well, "began the confession, "I got 50 in spelling, 30 in math's and 20 in science."
~~~~~~
Customer:Waiter, there's a dead beetle in my soup.
Waiter:Yes sir, they are not very good swimmers.
~~~~~~
Customer:Waiter, there's a fly in my soup.
Waiter:That' s all right sir, he won't drink much.
~~~~~~
Waiter: I've stewed liver, boiled tongue and frog's leg.
Customer: Don't tell me your problems. Give the menu card.
~~~~~~~~~
Customer:Waiter, there's a fly swimming in my soup.
Waiter: So what do you expect me to do, call a lifeguard?
~~~~~~~
Customer :Waiter, what's the meaning of this fly in my tea up?
Waiter :I wouldn't know sir, I'm a waiter, not a fortune teller.
~~~~~~~
1st thief :Oh ! The police is here. Quick! Jump out of the window!
2nd thief:But this is the 13th floor.
1st thief :Hurry! this is no time for superstitions.
~~~~~~~~
Man: How old is your father?
Boy: As old as me.
Man : How can that be?
Boy: He became a father only when I was born.
~~~~~~~~~
Customer:Waiter, this soup tastes funny.
Waiter: Funny? But then why aren't you laughing?
~~~~~~~
Teacher : Peter, why are you late for school again?
Peter: Well, Miss, I dreamed that I was playing football and the game went into extra time.
~~~~~~~
An absent-minded man went to see a psychiatrist.
'My trouble is,' he said, 'that I keep forgetting things.
''How long has this been going on?' asked the psychiatrist.
'How long has what been going on?' said the man.
~~~~~~~
Girl : Do you love me?
Boy:Yes Dear.
Girl: Would you die for me?
Boy :No, mine is undying love.
~~~~~~~~
Is Position Important In Voluntary Job?
In previous post, I shared a title about "Eat When You Are Bloated" which is all about forcing people to do things which he/she doesn't like to do. And this week, after a long weekend holiday for me and I'm back in college, sudden thought of this title "Is Position Important For You When You're In Voluntary Job?"
So, is it important for you to hold any position in an organization when you are doing voluntary job? This is what I'm wondering today. Someone came up to me and say "We put your name in this position because when so and so need help in future, at least you have a position to do your job." Come to think of it, how true is it? I am volunteering myself to help up people who face problem with the management of certain organization, and I know the management more than any of my organization people do, this you guys in the organization have to admit that. So to offer myself to help those who are facing problem, do I really need to be a position holder to help them? I don't think so.
When you are really wellknown in a place, do you really need to be a position holder to execute your job as a helper? Again, I don't think so. In my opinion, when you are wellknown, people will automatically come to find you on their own to ask for your help to help them. Why do we have to hold a position? To show off? Nothing for me to show off. I still remember, when I offer myself as a Student Council and wanted to contest for the President position, I was really look unto myself as a person that can help students in the college. But after that, do anyone know why do I back off from contesting? It's not because of politic there. It is so easy to play with college politic, but I just feel that the candidates are just not my challenger. I back off from contesting because I don't think I need a position to help people who are in need of me. After election, I congratulate the President of Student Council, Zech, and he offer me a post but i rejected. But I told him, "I will fully support you for whatever things you are doing as long as it is right to do. I will offer myself as a helpers or adhock committee in events you organize if I am free." Did I ever need a position to help?
You can give me hundreds of reasons for me to take up a position, but I will just give you one reason to reject you if I feel I not comfortable taking up position in the organization. You can use whatever power you have, it doesn't matter as advisor, president, vice-president or whatever position power you have to force me to take up the position you wanted me to take up. BUT i will just use one simple LAW to stop you from forcing me to take up a position. I will not use law to defend myself except I'm forced to. If you make me to the point where I have no more reason to tell you, LAW is my simply reason to reject you. If you against the law, then you are againsting the country, and I can file police report to say you are againsting the country and against the law.
I keep wondering, if you need to be position holder to help people who are in need, then what about those in Afrika, Tsunami victims, flood victims, fire blaze victims, earth quake victims, etc.. When you go and help them, do you need to tell them that you are the CEO of ABC company in order to help them? Or do you just need to mention to them that, "Hey, I come to help you"? Which do you mention when you helping people? I really pity those victims who receive help from people who thinks that they should hold a position to help those who are in need. I believe, while helping, they will keep bragging about how powerful they are and what position are they holding.
I believe, we need a change in Malaysian's mentality especially the young adults. We come out as professionals and not as position holder for us to brag about. Position is not the main thing that we should be looking forward. Think more of helping people and not about position. You guys think too much. Stop it and make a change before you want to change others.
So, is it important for you to hold any position in an organization when you are doing voluntary job? This is what I'm wondering today. Someone came up to me and say "We put your name in this position because when so and so need help in future, at least you have a position to do your job." Come to think of it, how true is it? I am volunteering myself to help up people who face problem with the management of certain organization, and I know the management more than any of my organization people do, this you guys in the organization have to admit that. So to offer myself to help those who are facing problem, do I really need to be a position holder to help them? I don't think so.
When you are really wellknown in a place, do you really need to be a position holder to execute your job as a helper? Again, I don't think so. In my opinion, when you are wellknown, people will automatically come to find you on their own to ask for your help to help them. Why do we have to hold a position? To show off? Nothing for me to show off. I still remember, when I offer myself as a Student Council and wanted to contest for the President position, I was really look unto myself as a person that can help students in the college. But after that, do anyone know why do I back off from contesting? It's not because of politic there. It is so easy to play with college politic, but I just feel that the candidates are just not my challenger. I back off from contesting because I don't think I need a position to help people who are in need of me. After election, I congratulate the President of Student Council, Zech, and he offer me a post but i rejected. But I told him, "I will fully support you for whatever things you are doing as long as it is right to do. I will offer myself as a helpers or adhock committee in events you organize if I am free." Did I ever need a position to help?
You can give me hundreds of reasons for me to take up a position, but I will just give you one reason to reject you if I feel I not comfortable taking up position in the organization. You can use whatever power you have, it doesn't matter as advisor, president, vice-president or whatever position power you have to force me to take up the position you wanted me to take up. BUT i will just use one simple LAW to stop you from forcing me to take up a position. I will not use law to defend myself except I'm forced to. If you make me to the point where I have no more reason to tell you, LAW is my simply reason to reject you. If you against the law, then you are againsting the country, and I can file police report to say you are againsting the country and against the law.
I keep wondering, if you need to be position holder to help people who are in need, then what about those in Afrika, Tsunami victims, flood victims, fire blaze victims, earth quake victims, etc.. When you go and help them, do you need to tell them that you are the CEO of ABC company in order to help them? Or do you just need to mention to them that, "Hey, I come to help you"? Which do you mention when you helping people? I really pity those victims who receive help from people who thinks that they should hold a position to help those who are in need. I believe, while helping, they will keep bragging about how powerful they are and what position are they holding.
I believe, we need a change in Malaysian's mentality especially the young adults. We come out as professionals and not as position holder for us to brag about. Position is not the main thing that we should be looking forward. Think more of helping people and not about position. You guys think too much. Stop it and make a change before you want to change others.
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
Eat When You Are Bloated
You must be wondering why I put this title and what this title mean? Let us see the meaning of every single word in this title and we will come to understand the whole meaning of this title. This title that I'm going to share is about things we will go through in life; clubs and societies, work, family, relationship, etc...
Firstly, to understand the whole meaning of this title, we have to ask ourselves the question "In what situation do we eat?" Do we eat when we're hungry, full, or half hungry, half full? Of course sometimes we do eat when we're half hungry and half full. Sometime we just feel wanted to chew something in our mouth. Most of the time, we eat when we are hungry, right? So we eat when we're hungry, and how much can we eat? We will eat according to how much our stomach can contains. We don't eat too little, and we don't eat too much.
Secondly, the keyword here is bloated. According to the sixth edition of Oxford Advance Learner's Dictionary, "bloated" means full of liquid or gas and therefore bigger than normal, in a way that is unpleasant. Written in Wikipedia, one of the common causes for bloating is overeating. So, what will happen if you eat when you had over eat? There are so much of food and water and gas in your stomach where you are full enough and not fit to stuff in any things in your stomach anymore and you continue eating. What will happen after that?
When our stomach is full, we have to say NO to ourselves to put more things into our stomach. Your stomach will burst if you continue eating after you say a No to yourself. It doesn't matter how delicious the food are, but you still have to say No when your stomach is full. It's the same with our life. It doesn't matter how people wants you to take up certain post in societies and work place, if you're not ready to take up the post, just say "NO". Do not force yourself to take up the post if you're not ready.
What will happen if you force yourself to take up the what you don't like to do? It's same like your stomach which full of food, you're going to be bloated, and then you're going to vomit. What vomit representing here in our life? Vomit in your stomach means something is fighting in your stomach that make you throw out. In our life, it mean when we are not willing to take up something that we don't like, it will create a misunderstanding between two parties and might cause to arguement and fighting.
Is it worth of being in this position? I don't think so... This is why, i had already started to say NO in situation where I think I can't commit myself fully into it. This is to avoid a misunderstanding and blaming each other when comes to time where I can't do the work when I'm holding certain position.
What if after you say NO and still you're being force to take up the position? According to the Societies Act of Malaysia and Employees Act of Malaysia, we, as the member of societies or employee of a company, have the right to say No when we're being ask to take up a position. If you're Assistant Manager and you're being promoted to become Manager of a company, you have your rights to say NO for whatever reason you have. And let them aware that if you're being force to take up certain position, DO NOT put the BLAME on you if you can't get to achieve or finish the job given. Give them an early warning before any blame could be put unto you.
With the early warning given to the respective person in charge, you are fully escape IF you do not attend the meetings, events, and even asking you to do the work.
With this piece of my personal sharing and advice, hope you do learn something from me. All the best in applying a NO in your life.
Firstly, to understand the whole meaning of this title, we have to ask ourselves the question "In what situation do we eat?" Do we eat when we're hungry, full, or half hungry, half full? Of course sometimes we do eat when we're half hungry and half full. Sometime we just feel wanted to chew something in our mouth. Most of the time, we eat when we are hungry, right? So we eat when we're hungry, and how much can we eat? We will eat according to how much our stomach can contains. We don't eat too little, and we don't eat too much.
Secondly, the keyword here is bloated. According to the sixth edition of Oxford Advance Learner's Dictionary, "bloated" means full of liquid or gas and therefore bigger than normal, in a way that is unpleasant. Written in Wikipedia, one of the common causes for bloating is overeating. So, what will happen if you eat when you had over eat? There are so much of food and water and gas in your stomach where you are full enough and not fit to stuff in any things in your stomach anymore and you continue eating. What will happen after that?
When our stomach is full, we have to say NO to ourselves to put more things into our stomach. Your stomach will burst if you continue eating after you say a No to yourself. It doesn't matter how delicious the food are, but you still have to say No when your stomach is full. It's the same with our life. It doesn't matter how people wants you to take up certain post in societies and work place, if you're not ready to take up the post, just say "NO". Do not force yourself to take up the post if you're not ready.
What will happen if you force yourself to take up the what you don't like to do? It's same like your stomach which full of food, you're going to be bloated, and then you're going to vomit. What vomit representing here in our life? Vomit in your stomach means something is fighting in your stomach that make you throw out. In our life, it mean when we are not willing to take up something that we don't like, it will create a misunderstanding between two parties and might cause to arguement and fighting.
Is it worth of being in this position? I don't think so... This is why, i had already started to say NO in situation where I think I can't commit myself fully into it. This is to avoid a misunderstanding and blaming each other when comes to time where I can't do the work when I'm holding certain position.
What if after you say NO and still you're being force to take up the position? According to the Societies Act of Malaysia and Employees Act of Malaysia, we, as the member of societies or employee of a company, have the right to say No when we're being ask to take up a position. If you're Assistant Manager and you're being promoted to become Manager of a company, you have your rights to say NO for whatever reason you have. And let them aware that if you're being force to take up certain position, DO NOT put the BLAME on you if you can't get to achieve or finish the job given. Give them an early warning before any blame could be put unto you.
With the early warning given to the respective person in charge, you are fully escape IF you do not attend the meetings, events, and even asking you to do the work.
With this piece of my personal sharing and advice, hope you do learn something from me. All the best in applying a NO in your life.
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